There are a few days every month I am a little more sensitive, a little more likely to take offence, a little less myself and a lot more some crazed blonde with an axe to grind. Listen, I’m not going to admit that I transform into a totally different persona, Jekyll and Hyde style, though I may casually imply that my dark-side overshadows my good doctor and Mrs Monstrous takes control…for a few days. See, I could write it off as purely hormonal, which is part of it; but by the end of every month I realize how much time I’ve wasted. I can count how many days I didn’t accomplish what I wanted to, the calendar never lies. And that makes Mrs Monstrous angry. And you wouldn’t like her angry. As the end of this month draws nigh, I feel a tug of knowing; my to do list just keeps growing, with less and less time to check everything off. So, what do you do when the list starts to pile up on top of you and weigh you down, transforming your joie de vivre into a big green shirt splitting monster? Well, there are a few suggestions I can offer to those of us with multiple personalities and the inability to say no.
Tools to Defeat the Monsters
- BREATHE- the brain is the most important organ in the process of getting anything done; without oxygen the brain is useless. Breathing is the best and most effective way to focus yourself and quell those todo list demons, if even for just a few sweet deep breathes.
- Re-evaluate- not all the items on your todo list have the same level of importance. There are varied timelines and due dates. A calm reevaluation allows you to reorganize the tool that is supposed to keep you organized. I also find it helpful to create drop downs within my master list. By laying out the various steps needed for each task they become bite-sized and easier to digest.
- Ask for help- this is a big one. If you are working with others you are more likely to complete all duties without things falling through the cracks. No one person is able to focus on the big picture AND all the minuet details. Now, not every todo list item is a group effort, but don’t think that you’re ever alone in the feeling of “too much to do with too little time”. Sometimes just talking to another person is all the help you need.
- Acceptance- no matter how much control you want, there will always be factors beyond your ability to change. Acceptance is key. Once you’ve accepted that sometimes life can take on the shape of the monsters you feared so much, you just might learn how to defeat them.
I am a firm believer that there is nothing new. That everything has been done before but it’s up to us to figure out our own way of doing them. Now, that may sound like a huge downer, but c’mon doesn’t it also take some of that “everything’s gotta be perfect” pressure off? Honestly though, at the end of the month when Mrs Monstrous comes stomping around, it’s nice to remind her that things could be worse- plus she’s a good worker. Her people skills however; well they could use work.